Events for Dying Matters Week

The focus of this year’s Dying Matters Week (10 – 16 May) is the importance of ‘a good place to die’. Local projects and events offering support and advice are happening across the city, most of them online via video conferencing. Here is our pick of what’s on offer.

‘Death and dying: a Martlets conversation’
– send in your questions for our expert panel

Death and dying aren’t easy subjects to talk about, particularly when they resonate with us personally. Talking with loved ones about their wishes for end-of-life care and the practicalities of death and dying may feel uncomfortable. But these are important conversations to have.

If you’ve got a question about any aspect of death and dying, please send it in during Dying Matters Week. We’re planning a Zoom panel discussion which will be broadcast in June via our website and social media. Experts from Martlets’ clinical team will discuss the topic and answer frequently asked questions.

Send your questions to

Martlets’ reflective space

Martlets’ chaplain Nicholas Roddis, and other local chaplaincies, are offering daily reflections via video. Nicholas, or a chaplain from another institution (including the Royal Sussex County Hospital and the University of Sussex) will share their thoughts. Links to community resources will also be provided for advice and support.

Via Zoom. Daily at 11.30am for 20mins

Monday 10 May at 11.30am:
Fr. Christopher McDermott, Lead Chaplain, University of Sussex
Meeting ID: 944 4392 5043
Passcode: 289916

Tuesday 11 May at 11.30am:
Rev Nicholas Roddis, Chaplain, Martlets Hospice
Meeting ID: 884 5088 1450
Passcode: Reflect

Wednesday 12 May at 11.30am:
Fr. Christopher McDermott, Lead Chaplain, University of Sussex
Meeting ID: 992 1816 3543
Passcode: 402448

Thursday 13 May at 11.30am:
Fr Graham Reeves & Rev Julie Pearce, Sussex Partnership NHS Foundation Trust

Time: May 13, 2021 11:30 AM London

Friday 14 May at 11.30am:
Rev Kate Lawson, Chaplain at the Royal Sussex County Hospital,
Meeting ID: 881 1401 5295
Passcode: 117282

‘Your funeral, your choice’
– hosted by Anthea Ballam, interfaith minister and celebrant

When it comes to funerals, the options are far greater than many of us fully appreciate. In this discussion, Anthea Ballam will engage three experts in the field of creative and individually arranged funerals. They will explain the options and answer questions on the significance of organising funerals according to personal choice.

Speakers include Lyn Baylis, a popular and well-known pagan chaplain in Sussex; Jean Francis, Chair and Inspirational Director of Last Wishes; and Tora Colwill, founder of The Modern Funeral.

Tuesday 11 May at 1pm. Contact Anthea Ballam for further details,

‘A good place to die: what does a place need to be, to be good?’
– hosted by Time to Talk Befriending

A Zoom conversation facilitated by Brighton charity Time to Talk Befriending, based on this year’s Dying Matters theme. Hosted by Peter Wells, a Brighton based psychotherapist, and former lead chaplain at the Royal Sussex County Hospital.

Take part and share your thoughts on the subject. (You need only share as much as feels comfortable; for some this is an emotionally charged topic that is deeply personal).
Peter will collate the responses and resources shared which will be made available to those who attend.

10.30am, Wednesday 12 May, 10.30am–11.30am

Free to attend. Please email to book your place (on a first come first served basis). RSVP no later than Friday 7 May by midday. Further event details including the Zoom link will be emailed to attendees on Monday 10 May 2021.

‘Conversations about End of Life: What’s Important to you?’
– hosted by Healthwatch Brighton and Hove

A webinar, open to everyone, about Advance Care Planning – facilitated by Healthwatch Brighton and Hove.
Thinking ahead to the end of life is a sensitive subject that no one likes to think about. However, the better we plan the more likely we are to have a good send-off. You will hear from speakers about ReSPECT, End of Life Companions, and other ways to plan your end of life. The session will also include an opportunity to discuss priorities for your end of life.

Wednesday 12 May, 12pm–2pm
Visit webinar page to register and to view list of speakers.

Dying Matters Week at Brighton and Hove libraries

Community libraries (that are open) are stocking an updated death and bereavement book selection during Dying Matters Week. The book list is available to view on your local library’s website. Also look out for posters and display screens; information will be provided on making a Will, creating a funeral plan, and making your thoughts on organ donation known.

All week

Dying at home – a conversation
– hosted by Brighton and Sussex Medical School

A conversation with writer Fiona Mason, end-of-life doula Li Mills and Martlets’ palliative care consultant Dr Simone Ali. Free Zoom webinar hosted by Bobbie Farsides, Professor of Clinical and Biomedical Ethics at Brighton and Sussex Medical School.
Fiona will read from her memoir ‘36 Hours’; the book chronicles her experience of looking after her late husband at home for the last days of his life. Li and Simone will respond to both the emotional and practical issues raised by Fiona’s experience. There will also be time for a short Q and A session.

Thursday 17 May, 6.30pm–7.30pm
Visit Brighton and Sussex Medical School for further information and to register